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Annie

She was from a different era, when people were polite and grounded. She had three children, and I was married to one of them. Having her as my mother-in-law was a gift. Annie (Anna Shillo), was a no nonsense woman who was practical, warm, deeply loving and she was...

To Be a Mother

Here’s the deal, my “kid” is thirty-three years old, and in my heart, he still needs me, and yet, in reality, I know he really only needs me on rare occasions. It’s our job as parents to raise confident and capable people who we then must let go of and set free into...

Blessings

With all of the pretty pictures we see on social media expressing visions of lives perfected to that of extreme luxury, adventure, travel, friendship, family and love so accomplished as to look flawless, remember that most of it is simply an illusion. We only allow...

Grabbed – Me Too

“What is the big deal?” I hear so many of you ask. It’s a big deal because it harms women like me. It opens up a painful, gaping wound that took so long to heal. It hurts because those who say it’s nothing worse than raunchy banter are, at the end of the day,...

Climbing Mountains and Slaying Dragons

One foot in front of the other we trekked our way up the narrow path where the Aspen trees rustled in the breeze creating a sound somewhere between water running down a stream and that of a joyful musical instrument. We hiked under this canopy of whispering leaves...

Fishers Island Wedding

She looked like a dream, as we all knew she would. A culmination of all her life experiences, positive and challenging, leading her to this joyful moment. She was a picture of all that is good – smart, healthy, confident and truly kind. So we gathered to watch her...

The Salmon and the Squirrel

In the spirit of keeping things real, I had an epic dinner fail last night. True, it was dinner for my husband, son and my son’s girlfriend, but seriously, these are the people that I ultimately care most about and wish to serve up the best to. It had been one of...

…and now the world changes

“…and now the world changes”. They were words that hung in the air, heavy and solemn. My friend let me know that his wife was fine and not in Paris where they have a second home. During dinner with a couple the evening before, I joyfully blurted out “Christmas and New...

Singing in the Rain

We were running down the middle of the street, me with my soaking wet dress hiked up above my knees with one hand and my father, holding onto my dog, China’s leash, water splashing up his legs each time his foot hit the hot, wet asphalt. By the time we saw my husband,...

Robin

My breath escaped me for a moment as I, like the rest of the world, learned three days ago that Robin Williams had passed away. Even this morning as I read the tributes and painful good-byes from those who knew him well, I was having a difficult time comprehending how...

Ten Years

My eyes fluttered open at four o’clock in the morning and I found myself waking to the awareness of the brevity of life, my mortality and the mystery of it all. A slightly uncomfortable feeling washed over me, a sadness. It was then that I remembered that it was the...

Finding My Center

I wonder sometimes why people feel they need to travel to the ends of the earth to “find” themselves or their spiritual center. Why do they believe an ashram in India to be more enlightening than their backyard or kitchen window? I’m not judging, because I believe we...

Fresh Intention for the New Year

As the New Year draws an imaginary line in the sand of time when we reflect on the past and look forward to the future, I am not so inclined to make resolutions but I do mull over the year and consider how best to live an intentional life each day.  THE YEAR IN REVIEW...

My Valentine

It was a long-awaited sip of something sweet and profound in a glass of Syrah Voluptuous, soft, and juicy, oozing with possibilities But with this particular drink of serendipity that I had ventured back for a deeper moment, a wisp of time that I would never forget...

The Land of Trolls and Apple Cake

I grew up with little Norwegian troll dolls that relatives brought back from Norway. Legend has it that these mystical and often dangerous creatures who live in Norse caves and under bridges, have a proclivity for munching up naughty children who wander too far from...

What I really want…

What I wish for on Mother’s Day, I have, a happy and healthy son who is a beautiful human being. I was blessed with a mother whom I shared an amazing and complete relationship with, I have a lovely step-mother, mother-in-law and a step-mother-in-law. All that I could...

Success and the City

A couple of weeks ago we had dinner in Baltimore with my two nieces - one who lives in New York and the other who recently moved to Baltimore. We were chatting about how these two beauties were feeling about where they are in their lives, when one of the girls said,...

Under the Big-Top

Dear Lady who works in the accounting department but whose name I’m not sure of, why do you always look as if life has passed you by? I feel sad when I walk by your desk each day and I wonder what is or is not happening in your world that makes you look so detached...

Remembering to Breathe…

Happily back in North Carolina for a few days, we took a walk down the road along the cotton fields until a couple of dogs chased us back the other way so we meandered our way down the long wooded driveway back onto the property.Through tall pine trees we strolled,...

My Coffee Crush

I’m sitting here drinking the perfect cup of coffee. My husband Ric, still over the moon with his new mega espresso maker, is keeping me well caffeinated. He has been pouring over the endless sources of coffee porn on the internet, perfecting his technique and it has...

In This House

My grandmother was born in Mexico on October 13, 1910. She was born at a time of strife in Puebla, so much so, that when she was three years old, the family had to flee the country in the middle of the night, smuggled out by train into the United States, arriving in...